What were things you and your spouse talked about before you were married?

What were things you and your partner talked about before you married? I know the usual: finances, religion, children, etc. But what specifically were the most important things you discussed? And were there any things you disagreed on that turned out to be a major issue? Or was it a minor one?





Thanks!What were things you and your spouse talked about before you were married?
well pretty much EVERYTHING but in details!


what to do with his kids %26amp; if they ever have to live with you


work hours %26amp; different jobs (if anything ever happens)


money issues %26amp; paying bills, debt


housework %26amp; cleaning


making yearly plans... what do you want the first year of marriage (who handles what responsibilities, combined income, affording what?), the 3rd (more kids- adoption, stay at home or working mother, daycare), the 6th, etc etc.


Holidays %26amp; Celebrations (whose house? what sides of the family?)


Discipline on kids


Religion %26amp; Values


Communication line (cheating, etc)


Sex (sounds funny but both people need to be open to talking and new ideas)


Time together and the time apart (who gets what ';free'; day? do you mind him going out on a Saturday night with his buds?)


Alcohol, Drugs, %26amp; Gambling


Ethical Issues (abortion, circumcision, etc)


What YOU and YOUR partner what from life? (are you able to help provide and change your plans?)








SO many more....What were things you and your spouse talked about before you were married?
We discussed him wanting children of his own. I already have children and had a tubal so I am no longer able to have children and my husband has never had children of his own. My husband is only 34 and so far he is adamant that he wants no children of his own, but since he is young yet, that could change and of course that would be a major issue. As for finances, we discussed it and decided that we will be fine pooling our income. Religion was never discussed and there weren't any other issues that we felt were necessary to discuss beforehand. We don't have any major issues at all and we get along well.
We met at a junior college. I talked about making movies, and was learning how to write scripts at that time. She was going to get her teaching credentials. We talked a little about church. We went every Sunday for a year. She wanted a big family, and I wanted a small one...still wasn't anything to argue about.





The most important things we talked about were what we wanted to do before having kids.


GET MARRIED (ten years)


BUY A HOUSE (seven years)


GO TO EUROPE (two years ago)


MAKE A MOVIE (I've done two) ';3 WAYS TO SUNDAY'; trailor on youtube.


TEACHING CARREER(She's been teaching for six years)





Our son just turned one last week, and we are so happy.
We talked about the three huge ones you mentioned. You may added your career versus staying home, working part-time, etc.





I bought our home when I was single. We've been married 5 years and I still have possessive issues about it. She wants to take over and I think of it as ';mine'; and so we butt heads alot. This has been about our #1 fight issue.
we didn't discuss any of those things...and i think at times we both find ourselves shocked by what we learn of the other...we do love each other and have made it so far, (10 years) and have worked through what has come up...but it has taken it's toll. talk, talk. talk. figure out as much as you can before you get married...it'll only help in the long run
The biggest thing we talked about were kids. I did not want them and I needed to know how he felt about the issue. I wouldn't marry someone who wasn't on the same page as me.