How do you get an abusing spouse to leave?

My elderly mother is being verbally abused by my father. She does not want a divorce, and she doesn't want to leave their house. What can she do?How do you get an abusing spouse to leave?
She can get a restraining order if she wants to get protection. But since she doesn't want a divorce I doubt she will take any steps at all towards self protection. How do you get an abusing spouse to leave?
How elderly? And how long has the abuse been going on?





If your father has always been an abuser, then she needs to do what she has needed to do for sometime. Put her foot down. If she hasn't done it yet, she probably won't do if now. If the abuse is getting worse, or you fear for her safety, you may need to get involved.





If it is a relatively new thing and they are elderly, it is possible that your father is suffering from some form of dementia and need medical intervention.





Good luck to you.
I am sorry that you are in an uncomfortable situation but why are you siding with your mother only? Your father may equally need emotional support from you. As well it must not be easy for your father. Apart from your mother needing to work out her differences with your father perhaps you could help ease the tension by talking to your father and finding out just what is causing his abusive ways.
the abuser will never leave. those who are abusive are insecure and controlling and know they are wrong. they try to be very powerful over the one they are abusing so that person will always stay with them. your mom needs to leave if she even cares. she may not want to leave and which means you just have to sit back and bite your tongue. or you could try talking to your dad about his abusive behavior.
Have a good talk with your father. Let him know how wrong he is to verbally abuse your mom. See if you can file charges on him. Verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. It's terrible what he is doing to your mom.
You can't make her do anything if she doesn't want to.