What do you do when your spouse spends all his free time on the computer?

My husband stays up all night on weekends on the computer, then sleeps late the next day. I feel neglected. Any suggestions.What do you do when your spouse spends all his free time on the computer?
Of course first talk to him, if you have already and he has not changed then un fortunately you have married a jerk.


For some reason men forget why they fell in love and the feelings that came with that love.


No one likes to be neglected or ignored and these feelings lead to more serious emotions.


I am so fortunate because I have found the one for me. Not on my first time, we have been together for 11 years, married for 9.


There is no time that I want to be away from her. Responsibility and our 7 year old son give us time to miss each other.


Good luck in your situationWhat do you do when your spouse spends all his free time on the computer?
Remind him that he married you, not the computer.





A heart-to-heart is definitely needed here. Tell him that when he becomes tuned out to you/family/friends by spending long hours on the computer, it robs time and attention from every other aspect of his life (work around the house, hobbies, charity work, socializing, family obligations,time with you...)





We spend time with the things we love. If he loves the computer MORE than time with you, the next step is making a choice to sleep together and rise together, use free time constructively and pursuing goals for a future together OR separation.





The computer is just his obsession of choice, like any other obsession people have. It's not necessarily the computer, but the reasons why he's willing to sacrifice so much of his life and marriage for its distractions.





Best of luck with the problem.
If you feel neglected, tell your husband. You're supposedly the woman of his dreams and he should respect how you feel. Maybe you can negotiate ';computer time'; with him.





Another thing, if you're always doing your own thing and not including him, maybe this is just his way of coping.
1) Don't pay your DSL/Broadband bill. It's just a temporary fix, though.


2) Wear more enticing and revealing negligees.


3) Seduce him when he's online. Put back the romance in your married life.


4) Go see a marriage counselor.


5) Last resort - file for divorce!!
To be honest, I'd start always being on the computer and ignore him lol...neglet him for a bit ...he'll stop doing what he's doing then, or theres asking him why hes doing it, checking computer history etc.





If you can't beat them, join them!!
Check on what he is doing. He might be chating with another female.


The key thing to do is ask questions.





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Get rid of the computer!