Did you ever give her little notes, cards, let her know you still find her attractive and sexy, dress up, want to spend any time with her? Did you show any interest in her? Are you a workaholic? Do you spend long hours online, outside of work-related duties? Are you consumed with your interests, like sports, TV, friends? Have you belittled her in the past when she has come to you for help or with questions or concerns?
A woman will only give so much before she starts to notice that she's not getting anything in return. And women are a lot like men: if they don't get what they need at home, they will eventually find it elsewhere. It may take a lot longer for a woman to come to that decision, but once a woman comes to the conclusion that she's not getting what she needs, she'll rarely reconsider. Women try hard to not break-up their marriages, but once they're done - they're done. I'd start by having a frank, honest and open conversation with her. If you don't feel you can do that, that you don't have that level of emotional intimacy in your relationship, then you have your answer. Something is bothering her, and she's probably on the path to moving on from you. Not what you wanted to hear, but that's from my point of view, and many people think I'm a pretty good judge of characters and their actions. Sorry. Susan above sounds like a woman who's been there and done that, and is tired of being neglected by her man.What would you think if your spouse stop showing you any interst?
look here bud, im sorry to tell you but she has someone else. you weren't there for her and someone else was. it happened to me, i know. married for 4 years and together for 7, never once did i thought it would happen to me, but when she starts to lose interest its because someone is talking to her and making her feel comfortable where you are not. if she doesn't want to open up and tell you, she wont ever until you guys separate
There could be a lot going on to be honest. She might just be bored, and you need to bring in something new. She might just be going through a lot and it has made her depressed. Sometimes it just takes a few little things to get you there ya know. I am in a simular situation, I would just suggest you sit down and have a long heart to heart before it gets worse. She needs to be open and tell you what she is thinking.
Hmm, possibly her feelings have changed or something is bothering her. You should try to talk to her about it to get some kind of response. It's the only way to get a true answer. Y.A. can help give you some conclusions; however, it might not be what the real outcome is. Try to sit her down and ask her what has made her change lately, if she's alright. Either if its positive or negative, go from there. Always go with how you feel in your gut. It will never go wrong. Good luck.
my wife showed interest until the wedding, then stopped for the next 12 years. she's a cold emotionless control freak and she hates sex. she sleeps 10 hours a day and she's got an excuse for anything.
time to start treating her like she's a doorknob, since obviously that's how she's treating you.
theee could be a number of reasons. best way to deal with this is to sit down with her ask her if you've done anything wrong. this will make her feel bad and she might give you some info to why. if she's lying she might just give you those hints that she's keeping somthing from you. then you could act like she's hurting you and pull a sad face...se might feel guilty a spill if it's something innocent like she's pregnant or something....10 points?
Sometimes that happens just because the person is bored, and used to that type of lifestyle. They don't have the enthusiasm to do certain things anymore. Ask her why she isn't doing that anymore if you really want an answer.
1) Affair
2) Withdrawal due to your non-reciprocation (What Susan said)
3) Depression
4) Lack of the necessary intimacy to talk about the real problem
5) Complacency
6) You got fat
It is very possible there's another interest in her life. When my wife went astray, her actions mirror what you're seeing right now. I am not saying that's the case, but don't rule it out either.
Do you do any of those things for her? Depression, maybe. Out of curiosity, what is her zodiac sign?
another guy she's been seeing. If she acted like that and change really fast then she has some one else she's not telling you. Been there.
Someone else is doing better with her then you were. Sucks, doesn't it? I know the pain.
Somethings on her mind for sure. Ask her.
Yeah, was Jc said.
she's bangin' someone else buddy.. sorry.
Don't ask people on Yahoo! Ask her!
she is doing it with someone else !
maybe another man?
I hate to side with some of the people who already gave you answers, but it's entirely possible she could be having an affair. Usually it will take something to create a gap between a relationship, perhaps she's bored of how routine her life with you has become, you're having less excitement as a couple, things are starting to show their age and the old things just aren't cutting it. She could have grown tired of what you had and developed 'the grass is greener on the other side' syndrome and is no longer committed to you.
Honestly it could be any number of things, generally when somebody pushes back from you it's because of how they feel, whether that could be because of another persons influence remains to be seen. Either way it's not healthy to be in a relationship where you no longer offer each other anything, if she's pulling away she's not offering you anything positive either. If somebody loves another person, their faults rarely matter, even if they're the worst faults.
It sounds like she's no longer got anything invested in your relationship, no emotions, no sexual interest, no friendship, and fundamentally you'd be hard pressed to call that a healthy relationship or even a relationship. It could indicate she's seeing somebody else, there's just as strong a possibility that there is no longer any love left in the relationship and it's better for both of you if there is no chance of reconcile, for you to end your relationship before you begin to despise each other. The best place to start would be to ask her whether she thinks there is any love left in your relationship, her reaction will tell a lot. If she gets angry it shows she is trying to hide her feelings by masking them with hostilities. A lack of an answer can be just as powerful and telling as an honest one. Go with your gut!
God, this could have been written by my husband... but to answer your (his) question:
';I know I have faults but if she would tell me what she wants I could work on them.';
I've given up saying anything... you have a short fuse. Anything I say, do, feel, think about or share with you pisses you off. So, I've learned to keep my mouth shut.
You have a hot temper - we walk on eggshells every day you come home.
Your ego is easily bruised... you look to other women / young girls online to fulfill your fantasies. This tells me, right, wrong or otherwise, you don't desire me anymore - you want me to be them / you want them instead of me. That kills a woman's libido dead.
You have made snide comments about my weight. Yeah, like you're the same guy I married! That beer-belly is just soooooo attractive! At least I had kids to blame for my weight gain - what's YOUR EXCUSE?? I ask you to exercise with me, and you're too busy, there is yet another re-run of Cops, or Judge Judy, or some other white-trash TV show on. If I go to the gym alone, you accuse me of trying to pick-up men!
It's your way, everyday - especially with me or the kids. You act like a spoiled brat when you don't get your way - that's why we all avoid you. You are right about everything, and we're always wrong. The kids? They don't respect you - they fear you. BIG DIFFERENCE!
Of course, it goes without saying that you'd never, EVER see yourself in the above description, 'cause you're such a great guy and you have all those young girls telling you that their your angel, and you're their boyfriend and they're dying of love for you - of course, they think you're 18, or 21, or...
That just about covers it...
... oh, yeah - and I'm thinking about an affair ... the way I figure it, what goes around, comes around!
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