What would you do though if you found out your wife had spoken on the phone a few times with a flame from the past-by the way she did not tell me becvause she thought I would freak out- and she was right- I would not have liked the idea- what would you have done in this situation.What would you do if your spouse called an old flame?
Flip out and get jealous! I'm not going to sugar coat it- I'd be really upset and ask him to consider my feelings and to think about how he'd feel it the tables were turned.
What did you do?What would you do if your spouse called an old flame?
Well there should be a story behind why she/he would want to make that connection again w/ their ';flame';, maybe they are unhappy, question the decisions relationship-wise. If that happened to me, i'd be upset, a married couple should have enough trust %26amp; commitment that the other wouldn't need to even think about doing that...that's kinda messed up.
I saw your question regarding drinking the other day.
That information coupled with this and other questions tells me one thing.
You both need to be in therapy and it needs to be soon.
She is drinking, calling old boyfriends and fighting with her mother (mom's mental problems?).
The apple does not fall far from the tree.
Get you both into some couples therapy before this spirals down to a point of infidelity or some serious mental health issues.
I would be really surprised for a start because my hubby shows no interest in any ex's, but I know I would feel excluded, and would have been pretty angry but only because it was done without me knowing. If there was a reason for it and he let me know about it I wouldn't mind too much. What I do know is I have no desire whatsoever to be in touch with any ex! they can stay in the past for all I care!
I would put out the flame faster than flicking a bic. Seriously, if I find out my husband has been talking with an ';old flame';, I would demand he'd leave the house until the fire is out, no ifs, ands or buts. I would start some ';fireworks'; myself and leave all else to destiny.
And I bet your wife told you how this other guy had broke her heart, so forth and so on, and then when she met you...........
People need to realize what's done is done.
You can't change the past.
So either sh!t or get off the pot!
Either accept that life goes on, or get your butt into therapy over past issues.
calmly discuss why she called him. she could be looking for a friend outside of your relationship. just find out why she wanted to contact him, and there your answers will lie.
I would be pissed.First of all she should tell me even though she knew I was going to get mad.Your partner talking to a old lover is not good.Either there going to hook up or future hook up.
I would have invited the old flame to meet me and my husband for a drink. No harm, no foul.
Try to stop it if you can, it can only lead to trouble.
Freak out and ask for a divorce.
laugh - there's a very good reason she's an ex. i'd wish him good luck with that one!
Well I tell ya, I sure wouldn't be very happy about it.
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