What if someone told u your spouse or betrothed showing interest in another?

Would you believe the person and whatever circumstancial evidence he or she presents and start to attack your spouse or fiance about it, or would you calmly ask them about what was being said and if there was any truth to it?





Please explain why you would choose the option you would.What if someone told u your spouse or betrothed showing interest in another?
If some one told me that, I'd grow skeptic but then no, I won't do any such thing as attacking my spouse, but may happen I think of two things from Socrates' Triple filter....





- does the person Know it was true?


- does it benefit him/her or me? (of course all won't try to spread rumors)





When we are to chose a spouse its not as simple as a person comes and says he is interested in any one else. And I believe that that what is seen first in a relationship is trust.


I'd try to know the truth from the person as well but not in an attacking way. This also may happen that he had was wrong when he chose me or may be because I chose him. So if it was true than its....what it is.








What if someone told u your spouse or betrothed showing interest in another?
First, I would consider the motivation of the ';squealer';. Why would he or she feel the need to tell me or why would they lie? Is there any way they could be mistaken?





Then, I would think about my spouse. Is he CAPABLE of doing what he/she said?





If I lend the ANY credibility to the accusation , I would pose a hypothetical question to my husband in a way that he would have no idea who could have told me. Depending on what he says and how he says it, I would just come right out and ask him what happened AND tell him WHO told me.





If I chose to confront the matter, it would be to give him an opportunity to clear the matter up.
First off, depends on how close I am to the person. If they are a very close friend, I will take them at their word and confront my husband. Then, of course, go looking for evidence. If it's a coworker or someone that I'm not that close with, I'd be concerned about their motivations and want some type of evidence first. I've been divorced twice, the second to his having an affair. I am all too familiar with this type of situation.
I would sit with my husband and this third party person and have a little chat with both of them together. That way, they can duke it out in front of me. I'd be able to tell which was lying. However, I do trust my husband, so I'd be more inclined to believe him.
Be careful of ';here-say'; information. Look at the person telling you and ask yourself, ';who gains?' by telling you. Verify, verify before you ask your spouse or betrothed. But most important, trust your instincts. Good Luck
I would believe my husband first. However, I trust him completely, so there would not be any reason for me to ask. I would let that person know they are treading on thin ice. Don't make trouble in my family.
yes i would believe the person %26amp; the evidence



Well, I would make sure it was true so I could party and be single again!