You really don't need to know about her past unless there is something tht happened that has changed her drastically. You do need to know her likes , dislikes, and what makes her the happiest, and the saddest. You should know her favorite colors, perfume, foods, type of cars, type of homes, type of jobs. You should know her ambitions, and how she feels about having children, and how she wants to raise them. You should know about her religion and how important it is to her. You should know where she would love to settle down, and how marriage fits into her future. You should know her views on what is expected of a husband and father. You should know what she feels her role should be as a wife and mother. You should know her political views. You should know if she has any allergies, or health issues that could be passed down to children. You should know about her family and how they feel about you.
As an added note, I would ask her if she is happy and if there is anything you could do that would make her happier or keep her happy.What questions could I ask my spouse to get to know them even better?
Believe it or not, I have found many questions here on Yahoo Answers that became discussion topics for my hubby and I!! Most of the situational questions are interesting to discuss because you get to know how your spouse thinks/feels about different things.
It's a more indepth way to see another side of people, as you may not experience the same things the asker is, but get to know opinions on how to deal with their situations.
Pick up on what she's talking about -- and ask questions. (After six years, you probably know an awful lot about her.) Find out about childhood experiences -- favorite teacher? -- family dynamics growing up, favorite authors, funniest movies, what she values in friends, what's working (and not) in your relationship .... you know! Anything that impacts her life past, present and future - are things you can query her about.
Well, thats a hard one to answer since I bet you already know tones of info about her since you guys have been together for 6 years. Well, ask them about their past experiences. The other people in their life before you came in. And my personal favourite...give her hyperpheticals (I think thats how you spell it). You know those quesrions like eg. If you won the lottery what would you do with it, or, if you saw a guy lying dead what would you do.
Stuff like that
ya know its very good that youre showing this kind of interest in her.
theres lot of cool things i learned from my wife...ill share one and hope to god im not emabarrasing myself here. LOL
i always thought that siince pads worked like band aids, how the hell they (women) got em off w/ out rippin theier pubes off...well, they stick to the underwear is the ansswer, and i had no clue..there must be something youve learned from her share it...she wil immediatley foolow w/ the same thought. they love to talk....keep up this line of thinking,you will have a good realtionship.
6 years is a lot of time, but sometimes we spend time enjoying each other so much, or maybe enjoy her so much, that we forget what makes her tick.
It is time u asked her her deepest desires, her dreams, her fantasies etc.
I means ask simply like 'if u had one wish from a fairy what would u wish for'
Everything and anything, from what color, what food, what music, what animal, pants or dresses. You talk non stop about everything and anything.
it depends in what wa you an to know her, are you talking about like simple things like faourite colour favourite food or are you talking about deep and meaningful things?
its been 6 years???? wow dude u should know her fine by now. the only question you should be asking her soon is if she wants to marry you.
u guys been together 4 six years than u should know
mostly everything about each other
GOOD LORD ! do you mean to tell me you have known your girlfriend six long years and you don't know her ?
On reflection though, this could happen, it may be your culture has something to do with it, perhaps you are Indian and your relationship is arranged. Or perhaps the girl herself is quiet and unrevealing about herself for whatever reason, including shyness. And as you say, yours is a broad question, if you were more specific then I could give you a straighter answer.
On the grounds of say she is a shy reserved type of person, I could understand that you would know her basic likes and dislikes, but your unsure of her inner thoughts and standards, thing like that etc. So this is what I suggest :-
Its often a good idea when wanting to know what another thinks about a certain subject or thing, you get into a conversation where you bring up that subject, if that gets her interested in talking, then read between the lines of what she say's, and you'll understand a part of her, that she is aware that she has really disclosed to you.
Here's an example. Say you have strong feelings about Capital Punishment but she does not during a conversation regarding that subject give any input. You wanting to know what she really thinks, don't mention your views too passionately, but then come up with a line such as '' I wonder how the relatives of the condemned must feel, they too are being punished''. That should lead into her blurting out strong views if she had views other than your own. Get my drift.
Sometimes others tend to agree with your views, just to stay on the right side of you, but this is generally what we don't want. When we're keen on another person, we want to also see and know them as the individual that they are.
Hope the above helps, and hope more so I am not totally off the beaten track in my answer, but its hard sometimes when you try to decipher what a questions means, especially when its a broad question like yours.
Meanwhile don't marry to you both well and truly know each other, don't be a leader in the relationship, be partners. Good advice for long lasting relationship - yes I know you never asked for it, but you've got me now going all philosophical.
Good Luck.
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