How important is it to have a good strong sexual relationship with your spouse?

Can married couples have a normal relationship without sex? Is having sex once a month normal? Can having kids decrease a womans sexual desire? How important is it to have a good strong sexual relationship with your spouse?
Anything is possible. I believe that you do have to have a strong sexual relationship period. Especially in a marriage you are going to spend the rest of your life together so make it count. When I had kids and during my pregnancy I was more sexually attracted to my spouse and vice versa. For me once a month would be a joke. Good luck!How important is it to have a good strong sexual relationship with your spouse?
It's a good thing I'm not married, I don't want you to have a good strong sexual relationship with my spouse.





It's important, You can't have a great marriage w/o it. Normal is different for every couple. I know couples that have it once a month. I wanted and often got it every day. I'm older but things haven't changed for me.





Of course kids will change your desire. Fatigue, stress, time, everything plays a role in desire. What you choose to do about it, make dates, plans and schedule will make things easier but not perfect.
I'm not married and never have been, but that is a given. Sex with a spouse should be an ever growing level of intimacy. Take that out of the equation and you have two sexually frustrated people who will eventually stop being attracted to each other altogether. Then, where's the point of the marriage.





And yes having kids definitely decreases a woman's sexual desire. I don't have kids yet but i work with them and i can tell you they are exhausting. Most days, even if i had someone to come home to, i would be too tired to think of trying to have sex. Having your own kids decreases privacy; especially if they're younger and more clingy. Obligations like having to fix dinner and still be on time to pick up little Jane from soccer practice all after a long day work = i just want to get in the bed and sleep; forget the sex.
Having kids can decrease a woman's sex drive because by the time she is done taking care of the kids, the house, probably working outside the home and the 100s of other little things that need to be done each day, SHE IS TIRED.





A normal relationship is whatever the partners define as normal. Desire for sex is personal. National averages point to 1 to 2 times a week as normal for couples. You need to look at what works in your personal relationship and not worry about ';normal';.
unless you are both eunichs (and the female equivalent) then no.





if you two are total freaks of nature and have no sex drives then it can also work-





however the 99.9999999999999999999999999999999% rest of us, require a good sex drive as a way to be intimate, bond and relate wth the person we love.





sex is a way to show passion and intimacy that there really is absolutely no substitute for- not to mention that as humans we have natural urges.





for a married couple, having sex once a month early on is not normal- a few times a week is normal early, tapering off to maybe 4-5 times a month maybe if you were geezers then once a month but at that point your relationship/marriage would have become more apathetic and IMO pathetic.





no one wants that.





remember in the 50s when in movies the husband reads the paper and ignroes the wife during breakfast?





is that love or apathy?





if you said the former I know a good mental hospital for you....





a good sex life along with trust, love, communication, respect and commitment are CRUCIAL to a marriage or relationship- take away one and like a house of cards it all comes tumbling down.





like a building without adequate support, these things must be present or the marriage/relationship will come crumbling down quickly.
WHAT??? It's huge... it's real big. If you've made a vow to be with ONE person for the rest of your life then that women better listen to Ashanti's new song, Good Good.


A healthy sex life is like gas for the marriage, of course you have to have a car that works and all that, but to keep it going you need some gas.


Can you feel your car up once a month? And even during the week, do you enjoy it being on empty? I hope not. Get that together...
This is a tough one. If there is nothing medically wrong with your spouse there should be no reason not to have sex. Having children does put a damper on sex at times, and taking care of children is a hard job and takes a lot of energy. She may be just tired.





Talk to her and see if you can figure out what the problem is and discuss ways to help.





I went through this with my ex and it tore our relationship apart. Our problem was, he spent so much time surfing porn there wasn't anything left for me. We would go for months without sex or any kind of intimate contact.
Its a basic human desire to have a connection sexually. I would say it is important. I don't have kids, so not sure about that. My mother had 9 siblings after me, so I wouldn't see it as affecting how her and my dad got along. (not that I really wanna think about that! lol But a decent example)


And for once a month, I would think both partners would need it more than that?
Having been married twice I know that a healthy sex life is important. Children can affect the frequency, but the closer the family is the better the intimate relationships.


I just cannot find a partner who wants sex every day!
it's very important to keep that part of your relationship alive and well. make time for you and your spouse to be together like that at least once a week or every few weeks.
I think most married couples end up more like roommates that don't have marital relations. It becomes a financial thing.
Sex in marriage is not everything, but marriage without sex is nothing.
They can pretend to have a normal relationship.. kids do bring down your sexual drive because your so tired but sex is very important in a relationship. I would say two time a week.
Sex is an important part of a marriage/relationship. It is the way GOD created us. It can build relationships and break them up so be careful with it.
have u been married long


do u find him sexy


do u think about sex with any 1 else


sexless marriage probs cant last


please let me no the answers





got the same prob but im male lol thanks






My ex's loss of sex drive destroyed our marriage-if a wife doesn't meet her man's sexual needs it leaves him with no ethical solution to his problem
I think its important, its great to have that connection.
god just have sex it makes ur realtion better