Im having a hard time getting my husband to not change the subject when i ask him about baby names, how do i get him to just give me some input on the naming of our child?How do you get your spouse to help pick out baby names?
I gave my husband a list of names I liked and told him to check or circle the ones he liked. If you do 90% of the work in the beginning, you might be able to get him to open up about the kinds of names he likes.
He probably doesn't want to get into a fight with you over the name; either that, or simply choosing the name makes the baby 'real' to him and that's a scary prospect for some people.How do you get your spouse to help pick out baby names?
My advice would be to not ask for his help unless you are going to truly treasure his answer. Personally, I've learned not to ask my husband anything that I really don't want the answer to. (paint color, tile samples, kids issues, etc.) because the minute he gives an opinion, I hate it %26amp; do my own thing anyhow. Pick a name YOU love %26amp; don't worry about it. Save your battle for who's going to get up in the middle of the night %26amp; feed %26amp; change the baby. Bigger fish to fry my dear! Good luck!
Start suggesting a bunch that you know he'll hate then he'll have no choice but to come up with something better which gives you more options and shows you what he's looking for.
Don't push the issue, it'll really turn him off. Some men just can't be bothered with picking names %26amp; why, I don't know. Nevertheless, choose names you like, write the complete names out on paper %26amp; put them aside. In time, your husband will ask you about the name, then you can tell him what names you like. I'm sure he'll let you know if there's a name he strongly dislikes. Good luck.
Stop pestering him. If he doesn't have an opinion, then name the baby yourself. Wish I could have named my kids. I didn't have a say with either one.
well here's a shot in the dark- pick the ugliest name that u know to see if he rebuttals then say to him, ';that's gonna be the baby's name if u don't start giving me some suggestions.';
and if that doesn't work then i don't know what else to tell u. good luck hon. and congrats...
He might think that is something you should do and does not want to be bothered by it. Why not sit him down and ask him what the problem is, let him know you would like for both of you to come up with a name. If he is still not interested, then pick the name yourself.
My husband wouldn't help me either. I kept coming up with name ideas and he would only say he didn't really like them, but when I asked for his input he wouldn't have any ideas. So I stuck with the first name that I really liked and kept trying different middle names. I finally found a middle name that I just loved and I wrote it down and showed it to him. He looked at it and said he liked it. That was the first name suggestion he liked, he never even liked the first name until I paired it with that middle name.
Just say...well if it doesn't matter to you then I'll be naming our baby
I would ask him why he does this. He may feel that it's too early to think about that. My husband didn't really want to discuss it until we knew what we were having (why disagree about a boy name if you're having a girl?).
I think open and honest communication will work best.
tell him that you've picked out a perfect name.. and say a name that is horrible.. like fred or wilbur.. I'm sure he will gladly put some impute into helping you
Pick some awful name like Norbit or Edberg or something like that.
Be subtle.Don't act too desperate.
Make it seem natural.Do some research on some really bad names so when you present them as possibilities you will show that your serious.
What if the two of you looked on the Internet together at various baby name websites? I like babynamesworld.com. Or the two of you could go to the bookstore and sit in those comfy chairs to look. Or if you hear a name you like, pitch it to him and see what his thought are. If I were you I would explain to him that it is important to you that he be a part of the process of choosing a name for your baby. Hope this helps! Good luck and Congratulations! :)
Pick one you know he hates and say ';That's it! That's the name'; and then he will want to have a say.
Guys are weird that way, mine ran everytime I took the book out. I ended up making a list of about 20 names that I liked and I gave it to him. He was forced to pick which ones were his favorite. Needless to say, he actually went through the list and had comments about every single one!
Just an idea.
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