How do you and your spouse find ways/time to be intimate with small children around?

And how do you keep things spicy? We don't have children yet, but I've heard of so many marriages having intimacy problems once children come into the picture.How do you and your spouse find ways/time to be intimate with small children around?
For us the key is we are very strict and consistent parents. We interact with our children, we play with them and spend time with them, but we understand and committ to spend time with each other. In order to mantain our relationship solid, we need to start from us. This is where many couples fail, putting kids first. It sounds selfish, but it`s not. The only way you can keep a family together and stable is by starting from the relationship, the foundation is the couple.


We put our children to bed at 8pm every night, once in a while we let them stay up for weekends, and they do as told because we`re raising respectful children under very good family values.


Nights are the best time for us to be intimate and keep our relationship good for ourselves. Once a year we go on a trip just the two, with the help of my mother. I know many couples don`t have this luxury, but we do and take advantage to bring back the sparks.How do you and your spouse find ways/time to be intimate with small children around?
It takes some planning. Teaching kids at 3-4 that they need to knock on their parents' door at night helps. Locking the door is a must, of course.





Opportunities for spontaneous sex during the day do get harder to come by, but keeping an eye out for the odd opportunity becomes second nature! Trying to have lots of good sex is important, and surprising each other when it's safe to do so is a must, in my opinion!





Once the kids are in school, it does get easier, especially if you work locally!
This is why it's important for couples to have a separate room for the kids and babies to sleep in. Too many couples get into the bad habit of letting the kids sleep with them and then the kids literally come between the husband and wife.





Get the kids on a schedule and put them to bed and when available allow them to spend the night with friends or relatives.
Well, children do sleep....





Also, a good bedroom lock comes in quite handy. :)





It's not impossible if you make time with each other a priority. You learn that other things in life aren't that important (example..we watch very little tv) and if you keep in mind that a happy marriage is the best foundation for parenting it's easy to be creative.
The issue often is that hubby feels replaced. intamacy is easy get to swapping with friends ill take yours for 2 hours on thurs you take mine on wneds and now you got fun time with no kiddies. also little ones sleep ALOT let them sleep with a small radio or cd player going and they get used to a little back ground noise and my boys sleep through anything. Spicy??? well define spicy its gonna depend on what thrills you and what doesnt if your sex life is good now then do that LOL.
Our daughter is 14 months and co sleeps a lot so we stick her in bed and then make our little den bit on the living room floor. We have a duvet and loads of pillows and then we sit in the living room watching tv and having sex. You can get from 8pm onwards to yourself so loads of time for sex whilst your child is in bed
Trust me you'll find ways. We schedule date nights once a week, at least we used to until we moved to a different state a month ago, we don't know anybody here! But we have a two year old and we still have pretty hot sex. We do it as often as we did before she came along, and we do it in all the same places. We just have to wait until she's sleeping and spray everything down with Lysol! lol
If a child has his/her own room there is NO need for there to be a problem for a couple to be intimate. The couples you describe do not know how to create rules and boundaries for their kids. I have 4 kids and I have NEVER had problems getting intimate with my partner because they we're home.
My Husband and I make a point of ';date'; night once a month. My Mom (Grandma) takes them for one night. We go out to dinner, talk, reconnect, go home and have some fun. Of course when the kids are in bed at night we have our time. There is always enough time to be intimate. You have to make sure there is always enough room for your marriage. Its called balance.
We are in our 20's and we have 2 kids. We get it on a few times a week. We just put them to bed around 8 every night and turn the lights down low bay bay~





You have to make time or you will always have an excuse to put it off
The good news is that they go to bed early, and take naps.





The bad news is that they wear you out and you end up going to bed early and taking naps.





There will be some frustration, but you will work it out.
That's just an excuse that people use. Trust me, it's a lot easier than you think. Yeah, it sucks because you will be tired from chasing kids around all day but you have to make yourself do it to keep your marriage close.
ha ha not mine we have 6 kids together and were good





that's what your room is for close the door and lock it and tell the kids when this door is closed





do not come knocking unles its ur bleeding or something like that lol


ha ha
When the kids are in bed...or sometimes when they are engrossed in a movie...just be sure you lock the door, you don't want to hear your child say ';why is daddy naked'; in the middle of it:)
Young children should be in bed by 8PM.





Supernanny has a great ';stay in bed'; technique.
When they were little the kids used to go to bed at 8.





Ever try turning the TV off? Suddenly you find yourself with 3 hours before 11 and nothing to do but get busy.
wear a mini skirt without undies - drop something on the floor and he can just come up behind you and do the nasty while he says - ';I am helping mommy pick that up';
Babies take naps and sleep dont they? Hand them off to grandma a few times a month and have some steamy nights alone. Stop making excuses.
When the kids are sleeping! :) just make sure you lock the door though! because you don't want them to walk in on you! and don't be to loud!
Try greasing the bedroom doorknob.
It isn't just finding time, it's finding the energy!
We usually reserve our love making for when the kids are all in bed, sometimes if he is home when the kids are at school. if the love romance attraction and desire is there than you will need no help keeping things spiced up!
wait till the kids are asleep then get into it
shut the door
babies ruin good people.
im not sure maybe get some alone time??
We make thursday night our Night. If you dont make the time it wont ever happen..