What are ways to feel attracted to your spouse again?

I like my spouse but there is no passion. I don't feel sexually attracted to him anymore. We are intimate about 3 times a week but it is not exciting for me and I feel there is no chemistry. Is there a way to get those feelings back? We've been married 5 years.What are ways to feel attracted to your spouse again?
Yes there are. Married 20 years and this works for me and my wife. She connects with me a little more then twice a week (in year 20, when we were at the 5 year point it was closer 4 times a week). Our sex life has kept us bonded at a very high level.





First questions:


- Have you both stayed at the same weight/fitness level you had when you first met/married?


- Does he ';rush'; things a bit when you have sex?


- Have you taught him how to turn you on?


- Have you taught him how to get you over the ';finish line';?


- It is difficult/embarrasing for many couples to say things like: I want you to be more aggressive in bed. The first girlfriend who ever told me she wanted light biting, light hair pulling and spanking during sex really opened my eyes.





You will both ';feel'; more sexual if:


- You BOTH take a shower just before bed/sex


- You get in good shape, exercise regularly


- You eat healthier


- Get enough sleep


- Minimize chronic financial stress - if one or both of you shops too much


- Set aside enough time for sex, so he can start out giving you a full body massage.





Play this game with him: I kiss, you kiss, I touch, you touch.





Then you kiss him the way YOU want to be kissed. Then have him try to kiss you back that way. Practice a little until he is kissing you just the way you like.





Same thing with touching, have him lie down and touch him the way you want him to touch you. Use one of his nipples as a substitute for your joy button. You can teach him oral that way also.What are ways to feel attracted to your spouse again?
I understand and know what you're talking about. You just want to feel that feeling again that you haven't felt for a long time...that excitement...that fun! Yes, there is a way to get those feelings back. First you're worrying about it too much and concentrating on it too much probably. Attraction and chemistry comes naturally...and sometimes at the weirdest times. I know that I've had times when things were humdrum for a long time and then suddenly as if someone turned a switch I found myself absolutely having to have her right there on the bathroom sink on a boring Sunday afternoon. I can't tell you what happened but something changed...it could have just been a way that she looked at me or because having sex or making out was the last thing on our minds...but sometimes by focusing on a problem it only makes the problem worse. Yes, there are things that you can do and he can do to figure it out....think back to times when you were really turned on...not just with him but even with other guys...or things that turned you on about him...what happened to those things? Seduction is a mysterious art but gawd does it make life wonderful!!! Good luck!
You only feel that way because you ';like'; him you don't ';love'; him, so why would you want to be attracted to him. Here's the thing, have a sexy night. Go out wear something tight or something that makes you feel like a sexy diva. Have dinner, rent a room (make sure you go shopping for sexy kinky things) and do your best to have a night of passion. Don't think of nothing else but him and he and your enjoyment.Tell him to dress nice too!
Do something different, something outside of your comfort zone.


Not sexual - take up a new hobby or learn something new together, start volunteering together or go on an exotic trip.


Anything that lets you see your partner in a new and different situation will rekindle the spark you once had, when you didn't know everything about each other. It helps you see your partner as a unique individual who still has some surprises left.
rape him!!! i don't mean in the literal sense, but when YOU want really, really want some, tie him down and have your way! be aggressive in having him do what you want. if he can take charge like you might need him, or if he can let you take charge like you might want to, it might help for it to be a little more fun for you both.
Take turns pleasuring each other without intercourse! LOTS of fun! ! !





Of course you can include intercourse too BUT first bring whoevers turn it is to orgasm without it!
BOOZE
take him to a trashy hotel.....no more than 15 dollars a nite kind of hotel....