I'm not married but...
My boyfriend and I argue quite a bit. Its just that we learn from each argument and never repeat it. Relationships are a learning process.How often do you and your spouse fight and what about?
Take a look at the relationship. How long before you dated, how long before you two bed down, how long til you got married, and how long until you were at this point. Many people jump in to a relationship and really do themselves disjustice. Long ago people had long engagements, during that time they found out who that person was they were attracted to, and if a relationship really was in the future of just common attraction.
Once you both lose respect for each other, it is hard to get it back, if your both not coming out of counseling feeling like its helping, personally Id end it, and not prolong the suffering. End it as a lets each get happy lives, how can I help you and this is how you can help me, there is such a thing as teaming up for divorce. Its only when one or both cant control their greed for materialistic things, that mean nothing in the scheme of life.
I hate to be the one to say it, but somethings just arent meant to last forever, either suggest space, a bit of time out, go away, and if you miss one another, then take the time to once again appreciate each other.
its healthy to fight, but not when it starts to get violent or messy. Honestly, you havent had time to experience the world, and form your own views and opinions, im not meaning that in a degrading way either, but my partner is 9 years older then me we got together when i was 19, i was out there and out going, and he didnt know how to take it, we fought all the time about things he thought was going on and wasnt. It got to the point where i told him if he didnt stop the constant bikkering with me, that i would leave. We have a child together as well.
Just sit on your own an think about your situation and answer the quetions that nagdeep inside.
Are you happy? love isnt war.
I was told the first years are the worst but my hubby and I don't fight we may have a disagreement but we talk it though. normally its small stuff like bills or vacations but we always talk it out. We've been married for three years so far we work very well together. In order for the counseling to work you have to believe it will work. Don't look at divorce as a option and trust me you will work though it.
We have an arguement about twice a week. It's not a long one, and it doesn't last long, that's why I wouldn't really consider it a ';fight';. We never go to sleep mad at one another. However, it's always about money. My husbands self employed, and these days it's been tough. We always need to chase the money we're owed. We are 26 and 28 and have been married for 4 years.
we used to fight about alot, and had similar stuff as you guys are. But not so much anymore. Our fights are pretty much the same now. he lies to me or keeps things from me, i flip out, and we get into a HUGE battle. then I forgive him cuz i realize pretty much any man is going to be sneaky, and all is pretty good again.
we NEVER fight....we disagree and are mature enough to respect that each of us can have a differing opinion....this is way different than someone who has anger management issues....you are probably young.....we are older...more mature, much more wise....you cannot allow yourself to stay in or be in a situation where you can / could be hurt.......if that is the case, get away..fast!
if you are in LOVE with the right person, you don't fight everyday about every thing.....
It will only work if you want to make it work. Miracles don't happen, you have to make them. If you are willing to accept him as he is and so is he then only you both have the chance. Life sucks but we still have to live.
We usually argue every other give and take. Usually about our differences in personalty. If you don't think it will work it probably won't.
often, about a lot of stuff.
We both always want to be right
and we both cant take it if we are wrong.
BUT we never fight about money
Everyday, about me loosing my memory and losing my hearing.
We fight every now and then... Mostly about money.
What is this spouse of which you speak?
Never. Life's too short to waste time fighting.
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